Last week I met a woman who told me she was on food stamps. I don’t
even remember her name, the sad woman with pretty
hair.
She
told me her husband lost his job, he couldn't find another job, she
couldn't pay her car insurance, it was going to get canceled, and then she
wouldn't be able to commute to work. I couldn't believe she was telling a
total stranger on line at the post office something so personal.
I was touched by her honesty; I could never
be that open about my life. I can't even tell my friends/family that my
kids sometimes curse me out, let alone have that much
transparency about a hardship. I didn't know how to handle what
she was telling me. I wanted to help. Was she reaching out?
Would she be offended if I offered her $20 bucks? I asked her if there
was anything I could do to help. She politely said no, I gave her my
email and told her if she needed anything to let me know.
I was
touched by her struggle and
what she told me about food stamps, how difficult it was for her to budget her
weekly grocery bill for a family of four.
I needed to do something...what?
Maybe I would mirror her budget for a couple of
weeks. I would budget my food bill on
what a family of four gets in food stamps. See if my family of four could
do it. Teach my kids this woman's reality... As I'm holding
a tall caramel macchiato, $3.65...disgusted.
I looked online for information about food stamps.
The program is called SNAP,
Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Plan. Per
USDA's food and nutrition website, the average monthly snap benefit is $133.85
per person, about $1.50 per person, per meal. This brought back memories
from when I was first pregnant 20 years ago, we got some help then; It was called WIC. It paid for
formula. I wish we could get some help now. But from the
looks of it, you have to basically be homeless to get public
assistance. The woman with the pretty hair said she was getting about $536.00 per month in food stamps. She was budgeting
about $134.00 per week for food for her family of four.
On Monday I went to my local supermarket, budgeted myself
$150.00, after all I needed toilet paper and paper towels. I bought chopped meat for spaghetti and meatballs and tomato sauce,
figured that would last a couple of days. Pasta, butter and chicken cutlet
that should last a few more.
I got milk,
eggs, no frills bread, pancake mix and no frills syrup, cereal, OJ
and Apple Juice. Paper towels and TP. The bill was a just a
little over $150.00. I was not going to spend another dime on
food. We would struggle a little bit. It would be for a cause, a family
a lesson. To make a difference, some good would to come out of
the horrible feeling I had for the sad woman with the pretty hair.
I got home and cooked, we would have food in the
fridge for the next few days.
By Wednesday my kids were freaking out. "Mom, there's no food in
the house!". No yogurt, no ice cream, no cookies, no soda, no
fruit...."Mom there's nothing to eat!"
… I told them, eat the leftover meatballs or
Chicken cutlet.
By the time I got home
from work Thursday my husband had gone food shopping. Seems there was nothing to eat in the house. (condescending). He got drinks, hamburgers,
cold cuts, ice cream, cookies and fruit.
He spent $200.00. There it was, like a mystical number, his $200 combined with
my $150 spent earlier was what I usually spend every week; About $350 dollars
on groceries, for a family of four per week. Are we the norm? How was
the woman with the pretty hair cutting it.
As I'm talking to my husband about how sad I felt for that family, I
opened a small can of Ginger Ale, took a couple of sips, and put it down on my
nightstand. Next morning I woke up, and threw out the half empty can.
As I'm tossing out the can, I thought about the woman with the pretty hair, her
hardship and the Ginger Ale...excess,
the left overs and Starbucks. Will
I ever be
able to drink Ginger Ale again…disgusted.
XO
Teresa